How To Avoid That Inevitable Argument With Your Boss

如何避免与老板之间无谓的争执?

The boss always has great expectations from the team and the team members always find it hard to live up to these expectations. Hence there comes a time when the employee and his boss enter into a heated argument over something, which ultimately results into the employee getting fired from his job.

老板对自己的团队总是有很高的期望，而雇员也发现很难去满足他的期望。因此当雇员和老板在某见事情上意见不一致的时候就会出现一些问题，最坏的情况就是雇员会辞职。

Although such arguments aren’t unexpected, there are a lot of things which the employee can do to avoid turning minor arguments with the boss into a heated debate.

虽然有些争执是不希望看见的，这里还是有很多事情是雇员可以做到不去和老板争吵的。

I am not talking about losing your self-respect or flattering your boss, but some sensible tactics which can ensure that you have an amicable relationship with your boss.

不是说不顾你的自尊心、也不是说要去奉承老板，但是有些技巧能让你搞好和你老板的关系。

Observe

善于观察

You can only predict the sudden changes in the behavior of a person if you have been observing them. Hence it’s important to start observing your boss from day one and then decide the way you should approach and talk to them. If you find that he or she is an easygoing person who loves to talk a lot and be cheerful, then you can open up too and try to be friendly. However if he or she is a serious kind of a person who doesn’t discuss anything with his team, then you should be careful and guarded while talking to them.It’s also important to observe the situations

如果你一直观察，某些人在行为上面的改变是可以预测的。因此现在开始观察你的老板就是很重要的，然后再决定和他们相处交流的方式。如果你发现他是一个很好相处、喜欢交流有比较乐观的人呢，那么你就可以少些顾忌、有好的和他相处。但是要是他是一个比较严肃、不喜欢和团队交流的人，那么在和他们交流的时候你就得小心点、说话的时候要有一定的依据。善于审时度势很重要。

Whine less, Praise More

少些抱怨、多些赞美

It’s not a good idea to always whine about different things in front of your boss. It doesn’t leave a good impression and further, it gives them an excuse to rebuke you whenyou fail to deliver on a personal project.

在老板面前抱怨并不是一个好事情。因为那样他对你的印象会不好，以后要是你没有做好某件事他也会找个借口责备你。

Also, you should take every opportunity to celebrate success with your boss and appreciate him for guiding you throughout. It’s not flattering your boss, but praising him for his sincere efforts. However, if you praise your boss again and again, it doesn’t leave a good impression with co-workers either.

同样，你应该抓住每一个可以和老板一起庆祝成功的机会，要感谢他一直在你工作的时候给你正确的引导。那并不是奉承你的老板，而是对他真诚的努力而表示赞美。但是如果一直不停的赞美你的老板，那样也会在同事的心目中留下不好的印象。

Learn to listen

学会倾听

It’s important to listen more and talk less, especially when your boss is talking. You should raise your point whenever required, but it shouldn’t look like you are trying to be authoritative.

少说多听是关键，特别是当你的老板在说话的时候。有需要的时候你可以提出你的观点，但是不要让你自己表现的太权威。

Also, you should realize that your boss can have bad days and might sometimes shout at you for no reason. Instead of immediately reacting to it and arguing with him, it may be better to stay quiet because ultimately they will realize the error in their ways and voluntarily apologize. However, this doesn’t mean that you should keep quite when there is a pattern of verbal abuse or ignorance; protect your self-respect at all costs.

同样的，你也得明白你的老板也有心情不好的时候，也许也会无名的冲你发火。不要马上和他起冲突和他争执，这时候保持平静也许会更好，因为最终他们会发现是他们自己的问题，还会主动道歉的。但是这也不是说在他们用言语辱骂你的时候你还要保持沉默，就算不顾一切也要捍卫自己的尊严。

Go that extra mile

多做一点事情

Most of us have the impression that our bosses are good for nothing and they don’t do any work. However, in reality most (not all) of them tend to do more work than their team members and work even after the normal office hours.

在我们的印象中我们的老板根本就一无是处，也不用做事。但是现实中大多的老板做的事情比他的员工要多，甚至是正常的工作时间之后还在工作。

So why not go an extra mile and ask your boss if you can be of any help. Usually a clever boss will approach a team member to share the work load, thus giving the employee a chance to raise their status in the boss’ eyes. But if you find your boss always working late then you can always take the initiative and approach him or her to share some of their work load.

所以为什么不多做一点呢，问问你的老板是否需要你的帮助。通常来说，明智的老板都会让员工分担工作，因为这样可以给员工一个提升老板自己印象的机会。但是要是你的老板总是工作到很晚，那么你可以主动提出帮他分担工作。

I hope this help you to further strengthen your relationship with your boss and avoid that inevitable (as they say) argument with your boss, which might cost you your job.

希望这些可以帮助你改善你和你老板之间的关系，在工作中避免和老板发生无谓的争吵。